Not much to keep up with today. Weight is holding steady. I do feel like an emotional wreck. It all started when I watched a video earlier of some people rescuing kids from a burning car. Got all teary and sniffly. Got some work done today cleaning the house and boring stuff. While I was cleaning I was feeling pretty hostile towards Dave- part of it may have been that I asked him to help me by vaccuming (I really couldn't last few days because of surgery) he said OK but then he didn't do it. Same thing with cleaning the dog room. I asked him a couple of months ago. I asked him again about a week ago. I guess it really isn't something to get upset about, but then it just kind of made me think about how sometimes he really lets me down. I don't ask for much and I rarely ask for help, so when I do I really need it and I need Dave to be reliable for me. I am still sad he hasn't made up my birthday to me yet. We still haven't gone for a special dinner and I told him a place I'd like to go.
Question:
When you are in a relationship, should the things that are not important to you some how become more important to you because of your partner (if it is important to that person)?
Maybe I'm out of line, but I feel like at least some of the things that are important to me should be important to Dave.
Am I crazy, are my hormones messing with me? who knows.
here we are, I'm not mad at him in this picture!
First off, I am mad at Dave for making you doubt yourself for asking him to help you slightly! Of course he should be helping you, you rarely rarely ask him to do anything! Especially now he should be working harder to make sure you can take the time to heal as you should!
ReplyDeleteSecond, yes I think that when in a relationship even if one person is not interested in something they need to recognize that their partner is. Not necessarily change themselves or go gung ho into whatever it is, but they need to recognize the importance of said thing to their partner and appreciate and respect that.